kak parti the hero.

19Mar08

wasnt really in the best of mood the past week.

many things happened at home, which made me emo, as kenneth would put it. my maid has cancer. colorectal cancer. all started when she started to lose weight drastically, losing like 10kg over half a year, and she started to have problems in the toilet too. all gone unnoticed by us, and she kept mum about it. I wouldnt blame her for that, for who would demand the employer to bring her to see a doctor for what was perceived to be stomachache? things got worse, doctors diagnosed her with stage 3 colorectal cancer near end of term 1, and she underwent surgery to remove the tumour. i prayed real hard everyday, asking for the surgery to be successful and hopefully she will be cured. then, i roughly know its almost time for us to part. she has her own family, her own son which she hardly sees (like once every 1-2 years). she needs to spent more time with her family, more time with her son. she needs time, but she might not have the time.

surgery went alright, she came back looking strong, in the pink of health, and thats when i was much relieved. but yesterday, dad broke the news that she needed chemotherapy, which means going back to Indonesia. chemo will pretty much make her weak and she definitely needs the care and encouragement of her family to pull through the treatment. and she had to leave soon for treatment, which means by the end of this week. i was pretty devastated upon hearing that, and i did felt tears welling upon my eyes. i repeatedly asked myself, why did she have to leave so soon?  

kak parti has been with my family, by my side for the past 11 years. i still vividly remember the first day she stepped into our house. i was just a 5 year old kiddo sitting at the dining table eating my chicken rice when my dad brought a very young short haired lady into our house. then a total stranger, now like family. i can still remember how we played badminton almost everyday, how she would fetch me from school, cooked our meals for us, played with us, make us laugh. all these memories i cherish will definitely be with me forever. she was almost like a mother to me. if i had any problems, feeling down, i would go look for her and have a nice chat. i still remember times when i would argue with my family to include her in family events such as cousins weddings, to make her a part of our family and not just regarded as a maid. i would always ask if we wanted to bring kak parti along to outside meals at restaurants. 

she’s leaving early tomorrow morning. when my dad broke the news to me yesterday, all i did was to walk to my room, and cry my hearts out. yeah i did. i really dont want her to leave, but there’s this bit in me that wants her to go, be reunited with her family, enjoy the rest of her life, get the support and encouragement needed to go through her next part of treatment. i really wished i could have a nice long chat with her, but no, i dont have the time. granny told me she said she couldnt bear to leave this household, but still she displays a cheery disposition which makes me want to cry everytime i see her. i really dont know how life will be without kak parti. all i can do now, and was what i did anyway, was to take photos with her, get her home address, telephone number, hopefully we’ll still be in contact. i really do want to go visit her some time in indonesia, but i know parents will not allow. hopefully we’ll still be in touch even though we’re physically separated. 

kak parti the hero. <3

live strong kak parti. i love you.

p/s: yes i cried as i typed this out, painfully. 

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